love is an art

anyway, i just watched this video: 'our conception of love is messed up.' and i think i need to write this down so i that i'll remember. the 'love' that i'm talking about here pertains to familial love as much as romantic love, though in that video she mainly talks about romantic love.

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love is indeed an art, something that we need knowledge of in order to be able to practice it better. just like learning an instrument, if you only practice when you feel like it, you will never be good at it--when you only love when it feels good, you'll never be able to love properly.

and love should be seen as a verb rather than a noun, as an act rather than something that just falls into you. love is active, rather than passive. hence we need to concentrate more on how to be loving rather than loveable.

so love is more like and act than a feeling. love takes accountability, it's something that we willfully do.

at the end, love is about sharing our personhood towards one another, love is about giving the other our 100%, and them giving us their 100% too. love persists when things get rough, because it's an art, it's something that we believe will turn to be something beautiful if we just have faith in crafting it (and it does).

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i'm still learning too. sometimes i demand more than i give, sometimes i give more than i take out of insecurity. well, it's true when you're crafting an art, you need to trust the process.